A post over at Niobe’s blog a few days ago has left me thinking.
I have the order of things confused in my mind, but I know that after Natan died, while I was still in the hospital, we were visited in the room by a flood of people. The doctors who’d been present came by, a social worker came by numerous times and hung around until the cantor from our synagogue came by, doctors who’d treated me but not been present came by, nurses came by, and the new doctors at shift change. Finally they left me alone, put to sleep by sleeping pills but I know a nurse was in the room within moments after I woke up. The nurses didn’t even leave Josh alone while I was delivering. They all asked for permission to come in to speak to us, but especially if Josh wasn’t in the room, someone else was.
Point is, it wasn’t the same for Niobe. She was left alone in the hours after. And at first I was thinking, wow, I guess my hospital was extraordinary. But the more I think, the more I just don’t get it.
Does anyone know if there are general rules as to what is supposed to happen? Were my doctors extraordinarily kind? Or were hers negligent? Because I feel really pissed off on her behalf and I want to know the depth of this problem.